We got the paperwork for both programs. We discussed health and warning signs of a miscarriage (she has already had one.) The doctor there did an ultrasound to date the pregnancy. A has an EDD (estimated due date) of May14th. The baby was not old enough to tell the sex, but looked livley as he/she danced in A's womb. I watched the expression on A's face and I could tell that she was already falling in love with the little person inside her. HOWEVER...she is still a teenager and does not realize that mothering the little being who dances in her womb is going to be so much more responsibility that she can imagine. As much as I am pleased that she is not slinking off to some abortion clinic, she is very naive about the huge endeavor that she is undertaking. I know that I have my work cut out for me. The nurse had to ask her to put away her phone while she gave us important information. She was texting people and it was not polite. Typical teenage habits.
I see a great need for a reality check. A needs to learn that her carefree teenage stage is over and that it is time to grow up. After all, pregnancy is the preparation period for what lies ahead. If a woman does not utilize her forty weeks to prepare, the transition will be (what I like to call) a period of "Shock And Awe," to say the least.
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I was 26 when I had my first child and I'm still not certain I was truly ready. It was a massive shock.
Sounds like you've got a solid start with A though.
Best of luck!
Texting in the office...WOW! lol I am sure by her next appt. when she realizes that she NEEDS to know what is going on with her body, I am sure she will be more attentive. It's just the beginning...she probably thinks "this isn't THAT bad" just wait til the uncontrollable gas and drooling in your sleep comes...lol
I'm on my third child and honestly, the shock and awe of it all still hits me.
Getting her prepared financially is a good start.
Sounds like you both are doing a great job getting set up and ready, financially anyway.
I was 19 when I got preggers and 20 when I had my oldest. I really thought I was ready and would be able to handle everything that goes along with being a mommy. LOL! That changed though. As time went on I realized that being a mommy is tough work AND that nothin is about me anymore...everything is about #1...the BABY! You will be tired, dirty, stressed and at the same time completely in love! It is a wonderful feeling.
If I could give some advice though; take the help that is offered, it won't be there forever. Let the baby cry, it is good for him/her. Put the baby first but still leave just a little time for you. Take a bath with candles and bubbles, read a book, take a nap, induldge in some late night ice cream. Do something to make yourself feel good.
It always helped me, the day after a bad night sleep, if I got up in the morning, fed the baby, took a shower and put on makeup. Sounds silly but it just makes you feel relaxed and pretty and ready for your busy day.
My EDD is May 14th too!
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