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Today, we will visit the MediCal office to turn in paper work. I am going to keep A with me a lot this week, so that she can see what having kids entails. The good, the bad...the poopy. I believe that every mom to be should have the opportunity to see just how selfless life has to be after a child comes into it.
Most women think only of layettes and baby showers, when expecting. Even the books do not cover the dark side of pregnancy and motherhood. I do. Not to scare...but to educate. Shielding pregnant women from the whole truth, only robs them of important information and contributes to the "What is wrong with me?" feelings of the post partum period.
What is one thing that you wish you had been warned about in your own journey to becoming a mommy?
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the post-pardom stuff...no one told me about it that had actually experienced it!
I wish someone would have warned me how bad nursing was gonna hurt. Mine finally stopped hurting after 3 months. I knew that it wasn't a piece of cake but I had no idea it was gonna feel like you got them stuck in a meat grinder. ha
Holy moly I wish I was warned about EVERYTHING before I had my oldest. I was...clueless and still had the teenage mentality that I was invicible and could do it all!
I wish I had known more about nursing. You hear everyone encourage it and say do it or your kid will be really sick and stupid. What no one tells you is that it hurts so bad at first that you may rip your hair out.
I think it's also really important to be prepared in advance for the hormonal changes you experience. A positive attitude and educating yourself beforehand can do wonders for handling your emotions those weeks following the baby's birth.
She needs to know that it's really common to feel frustrated and helpless. Babies are adorable and special but they also cry, poop, pee, cry, scream, poop, refuse to eat, eat too much, cry... etc.
I'm still kinda unclear... is she keeping the baby? Undecided? I know you said something about an adoption plan before.
I think that's an excellent idea...keeping her with you to see how 'real' mommyhood is.
Off to check out Mommy Village. :)
XOXO
I wish someone would of told me I wouldn't be able to sit! I also wish someone would of told me that you really SHOULD take the enema before giving birth......ewww:(
Cracked and bleeding nipples!
I had NO idea!!
Clumpy discharge after birth...again NO idea!
Breastfeeding is PAINFUL in the begging...NO Idea
All would have helped!!
Hi. I just came over here from Megzy's world.
I also have to second the women who said they wish someone had told them about post-partum. I had NO IDEA! I needed so much help for 10 weeks because I felt so horrible and I didn't even have a c section! Luckily, post partum with my second was much easier.
I think the reality of child care was not so hard, but then again, I didn't have to work or go to school while i was doing this...
I wish someone would have told me that nursing isn't as easy as putting the baby to the breast! There's a lot of learning to take place from mommy and baby AND it hurts! It's time consuming and you feel like that's all you do at first. I highly recommend a breastfeeding class DURING the pregnancy - I am a peer helper at one right now and we have a lot of moms come who are still pregnant. Also, know that if you can't breastfeed or if it's not going well, it's not the end of the world either! It's more important for the baby to have a mom who isn't pulling her hair out trying to conquer the world than it is to give breastmilk!
I also wish someone would have told me that you will get frustrated and there will be times that you feel so overwhelmed you don't know what to do. I don't want anyone to think that I abuse my children, but there are times when you can actually understand how someone you hear about on the news hurt their child out of frustration - I've never hurt my children, but I have definitely had to put them down and walk away for a few minutes to pull myself together.
In the end, being a mother is the most rewarding job on the face of the earth.
Amen to all of these!
A is keeping her baby and I am trying to make sure that I cover every aspect of the transition, so that it is not as hard on her.
While it's not a complete one, Belly Laughs by Jenny McCarthy might be a great book for A to read. It is an eye opener.
I wish someone would have told me that you won't necessarily look at your baby and love them and everything will be ok. I was 17, my baby was early and tiny and sick and he needed me so much it scared the heck out of me. Now 12 1/2 years later I wouldn't change a thing and he is my life but that instant love didn't take place like they show in the movies. Girls need to know that is ok and doesn't make them a bad mama.
I agree with the universal post-partum reply. I have been telling all of my friends that the first month is pretty miserable. You are overwhelmed and exhausted... and it takes at least a month before breastfeeding starts to make sense and get easier. It wasn't until I finally sat my husband down and told him I was having problems; that I was feeling guilty about all the negative thoughts, I loved my child but was uterly and completely overwhelmed. The moment I said it out loud and I stopped trying to pretend everything was wonderful to my husband and the outside world and I admitted to my insecurites, the post partum funk started to lift and everything started to get easier. Day by day things improved and I am still figuring motherhood out.
Besides the post-partum I wish someone would have told me about all the gross stuff, the mucus, your water breaking, the weeks and weeks of bleeding after having a baby. I felt like I went 11 months with fluid coming out of my vagina. And the joke that you can't see your feet... bs... its the girly parts you go months and months without being able to see. I could move my legs for confirmation that my toes were still there, but aside from a mirror there is no way to see your vajay-jay!
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